A Marriage Made in Heaven?

Published on March 10, 2007

Peter Manseau: One evening just before Christmas, in a modest, two-bedroom apartment on 16th Street in Northwest Washington, the most controversial clergyman in the recent history of the Roman Catholic Church took a moment to sing me a song...

By Peter Manseau

Scripture says it is not good for man to be alone. The Catholic Church begs to differ, especially where this man is concerned.

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Originally published in the Washington Post Magazine, March 11, 2007.

ONE EVENING JUST BEFORE CHRISTMAS, in a modest, two-bedroom apartment on 16th Street in Northwest Washington, the most controversial clergyman in the recent history of the Roman Catholic Church took a moment to sing me a song.

Emmanuel Milingo, 76, the former archbishop of Lusaka, Zambia, popped a cassette into his stereo and smiled as words in Chewa, the language of his youth, filled the living room. A soft murmur kept the rhythm while two interwoven strains chased each other, catching up, then pulling apart.”It is my own composition,” Milingo said. “Do you hear? Listen: It is my voice, three times.” His hands and chin rising and falling to slightly different tempos, he swayed where he stood, dressed entirely in priestly black. His dark socks tapped on the beige carpet. A heavy pectoral cross clacked like a metronome against the buttons of his suit coat; its silver chain twinkled against his Roman collar.

“Music is too strong as a passion for me,” he said as the tape played on. “I do not allow myself to dwell too much on it, because it is so strong.”

His other passion, the one I had come to speak to him about, is his church. On that, he does allow himself to dwell, much to the Vatican’s chagrin. Not long after moving to Washington from Rome last summer, he was excommunicated for repeatedly and publicly defying the orders of his ecclesiastic superiors. He is living now as a kind of religious refugee.

Nonetheless, he says he has kept the faith.

“I am Catholic from head to foot,” Milingo assured me.

He had arranged one of the small rooms in his new apartment as a makeshift chapel, praying there each morning before the sun lighted up his building’s view of Rock Creek Park. Pictures of his beloved spiritual protector, Pope John Paul II, hung on nearly every wall.

The only face that appeared as many times throughout the home was the grinning countenance of the Rev. Sun Myung Moon, self-proclaimed messiah and founder of the Unification Church. According to Milingo, these belong to the woman who is part symptom and part cause of his excommunication: Maria Sung, a South Korean acupuncturist chosen as his bride by Moon. They have been married for five years, though they have lived together for only the last few months.

With his wife — a short, sunny woman dressed in slippers and a no-nonsense sweat suit — looking on from across the room, Milingo began singing in harmony with one of the musical strains and offering an interpretation after each line. His hands moved through the air deliberately, caressing the words of his hymn.

“Where did Jesus Christ come from?” he sang. “They say He came from the heavens. Where did Jesus Christ come from? Let us go and see.”

Small in stature, plump with age, with a wide forehead and sparse white hair over his gold-rimmed glasses, he was a most unlikely performer. Yet the grin he wore belonged to a man who clearly loved having an audience, whoever it might be.

FIVE YEARS BEFORE, IN MAY OF 2001, Archbishop Milingo made headlines around the world when he announced that he had broken his vow of celibacy by getting married. Marriage for a man in Milingo’s position — a well-known septuagenarian Roman Catholic prelate — would have raised eyebrows under any circumstances; that he had wed a 43-year-old woman selected by Moon’s Unification Church, regarded by critics as a mind-controlling cult, made the nuptials a global media event. Milingo had not been the sort of progressive cleric one might expect to agitate for change in one of the church’s most distinctive disciplines. In fact, until then he had seemed a Catholic from the earliest days of the church’s history, a Latin-preferring traditionalist who had come to prominence in Africa as an exorcist and faith healer.

Yet somehow, this theologically conservative priest wound up taking part in a classic Unification wedding: 62 couples dressed in identical tuxedos and bridal gowns, all standing before Moon as he gave his blessing and invoked three cheers of ” Ok Mansei!” a Korean valediction by which all participants wished “ten thousand years of victory” to Moon as the “True Father” of humanity. Though the wedding had taken place in New York, its most immediate impact was felt in Italy, where Milingo’s renown was such that he had recorded two popular albums of Zambian songs, and had even seen the story of his life turned into a cartoon. The Italian media speculated that Milingo had been brainwashed or otherwise coerced into marriage. The Vatican’s official exorcist, Father Gabriele Amorth, suggested that Moon’s followers had pursued his former colleague “relentlessly.”

From there, the suspicions snowballed: The emergence of a rogue clergyman armed with the power to ordain new bishops and priests of his choosing brought whispers of a possible schism, a split among the faithful in the mold of the Reformation. Some feared that Milingo intended to start a breakaway church in Africa, with himself as spiritual leader and Moon as his string-pulling financier. On a continent where the number of Catholics has almost tripled in the last 30 years — as numbers elsewhere have plunged — such a move by one of its most popular native sons might prove disastrous, from the Vatican’s perspective.

Milingo denied that he had any such ambition but gave ample evidence that he had wandered far from the only church he had ever known. In binding the Catholic priesthood to the sacrament of marriage, “we will strengthen and renew the two parts, while at the same time building a greater and stronger whole,” Milingo wrote in a July 2001 response to the Catholic Church’s admonitions. “This is what God is asking.” Milingo spoke of his marriage as divinely inspired and, asked at a news conference about Moon’s theology, went so far as to propose that Jesus had been “killed before He was able to carry out His plans” — a suggestion that contravenes the central Christian tenet of Christ’s “perfect sacrifice,” while neatly fitting Moon’s assertion that he is on Earth to finish Jesus’s work.

But Milingo’s disobedience apparently could not withstand a direct plea from the pope. When John Paul II asked him, “in the name of Jesus,” to come back to the church, that’s what he did, leaving his wife 10 weeks after their wedding. Even Maria Sung’s 16-day hunger strike couldn’t get Milingo back. Until, that is, last June, about five years later, when Milingo disappeared from Italy. His whereabouts remained unknown long enough that the Zambian government asked the Vatican to find him. In July, he reemerged, in typical attention-grabbing fashion, at the National Press Club in Washington. Not only had he returned to his wife, he announced, but he would now begin a mission to remove the requirement of celibacy from the Roman Catholic priesthood.

Some took this as a sign that he had been brainwashed, after all; that the rumors of Milingo returning to Africa as the Unification Church’s puppet pope were true. And Milingo only fed that speculation when, in September, he consecrated four married men as bishops — an act which, according to the Vatican, brought him automatic excommunication.

“Nonsense,” Milingo says. “I do not believe in excommunication.” He gave his mission a name — Married Priests Now — and acknowledged assistance from Moon. However, Milingo said, it was not Moon who had persuaded him to again take up challenging the celibacy of priests as the rule of his church.

“Jesus said to me, ‘You are timid,'” he told me later. ” ‘You are timid to have begun this only to walk away.'”

As is often the case with people who say they receive direct messages from the divine, the whole story is in fact a bit more complicated than that.

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Peter Manseau is a contributing editor to the Revealer, and author most recently of the memoir Vows: The Story of a Priest, a Nun, and their Son.

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